This is the last day of the year and the question is "How have you changed?" Oh my - let me count the ways.
I got involved in a Facebook group from the Daily Om using the book "A Year to Clear What Has Been Holding You Back" by Stephanie Bennet Vogt.
I cleared far more than clutter. I dumped limiting beliefs, an abundance of excess belongings, and heavy emotions that were weighing me down.
Then I sat in the empty space considering the hole in the donut. I did things like make my bed every day, carefully considered any new purchases (and there weren't many that passed the 'do I love it' test), and waited for a sense of direction.
Soon I began noticing all the relational clutter around me...blended families are ripe with that stuff and mine was no exception. So I watched emotional 'weather patterns' and detached from the drama as I began to set boundaries for maybe the first time in my 10-year marriage. Voila - the missing piece to my life puzzle appeared!
I had to face the fact that my man doesn't honor boundaries. And that love loses meaning when it's used as a slogan to maintain the status quo. This year-long course gave me the elements of trusting myself and taking baby steps, so I baby-stepped my way on out the door. No big dramatic bang - just one step back after another as we untangled the finances and family ties.
How have I changed? Consciously. Carefully. Considerately.
I highly recommend it.
Kim Halsey is a human resource professional and executive coach who helps people overcome life damaging habits, restore important relationships, and live their dreams without drama.