Dieting for women is how we fulfill our sense of belonging. After all, if you're not talking about body, weight, or diets with other women, what's left?
Life. Your life. The one you put on the shelf until you lost 10 pounds (or 50 pounds.) The one you believed you had to earn by looking and behaving a certain way. The one society said you weren't worthy of because of your size.
Your daughter's life. The one she will learn from you by example. She deserves the freedom to pursue those deferred dreams, desires and visions. Now.
So do you.
Join me - I made it through the other side and would love to share it with you!
Life is Difficult - M. Scott Peck
On average, a woman will embark on 62 diets by the time she reaches 45 years old. After all that, do you think the average woman weighs less or more than when she started? Statistics indicate that diets are the greatest predictor of long term weight.
What has your experience been? Do you look back at that first diet when you thought your body was hideous and long for the good old days?
Here's what I know for sure: my kitchen and finished product do not look like the infomercial for Veggie Bullet.
I don't cook and don't love kitchen cleaning either. In the hands of a novice like me, this thing is more labor intensive than my juicer.. However, Sunday is my day to play and this is the toy of the week.
Not crazy about the spiralizer but that slicing/shredding function is amazing. And there is some satisfaction from knowing that there are NO added ingredients or preservatives in my shredded cheese, chopped onions, sweet potato fries, sliced apples, lettuce shreds and matchstick carrots - all stuff I used to buy at the store. Now we'll see how the slime factor is by Thursday!
Bonus: amazing salad while cleaning up leftovers and oh my god baked apples!
When does a healthy approach to fitness become obsessive or problematic? When you find yourself doing any of these things:
● Skipping meals
● Making excuses for not eating
● Eating only a few certain “safe” foods
● Adopting rigid meal or eating rituals
● Cooking elaborate meals for others, but refusing to eat them yourself
● Collecting recipes
● Withdrawing from normal social activities
● Persistent worry about being fat or gaining weight
● A distorted body image, such as feeling fat despite being normal- or underweight
● Not wanting to eat in public
● Frequent checking in the mirror for perceived flaws
● Repeatedly eating large amounts of sweet or high fat foods
● Use of syrup of ipecac, laxatives, the over the counter weightloss drug orlistat (Alli).
● Use of dietary supplements or herbal products for weight loss
● Food hoarding
● Eating in secret
--from Mayo Clinic, Signs of Disordered Eating
Be careful little eyes what you see.
Be careful little ears what you hear.
The internet is full of opinions and misinformation.
So when a website uses the word "Authority" in the URL to publish that food addiction is a serious problem with a simple solution, it gets my attention.
Everything else is layered with our emotions and imagination. We imagine it brings people together, or makes us feel loved. We use it to distract ourselves from unfinished business of the past, or of the present in the form of procrastination. We make it our god with control over us, or we call it the devil whom we are powerless to resist.
More like superstition that nutrition, don't you think?
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The holidays are rapidly approaching and there's no time to waste.
Here's the short version of Section 3 of my book, "25 Ways to Win: The Pocket Guide to Addiction Recovery."
1. Have a Daily Plan
2. Get a Buddy or Two
3. Dare to Dream
4. Embrace Grace
5. Become a Safe Person
If you have trouble doing these things, call me to see if I can help you get focused on living your dreams without drama.
If you haven't already done it, buy the book to help you stay safe and sane during this holiday season. Keep it for yourself, use is as a discussion tool for couples, or give it away to friends as a Pre-Holiday gift before addiction takes all the fun out of yet another holiday.
Kim Halsey is a human resource professional and executive coach who helps people overcome life damaging habits, restore important relationships, and live their dreams without drama.
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