20 years ago, "family systems theory" was brought to the consciousness of mainstream America by author John Bradshaw. He indicated that there were certain family traits common to people who were raises in alcoholic or otherwise dysfunctional homes.
From his work, the Adult Children of Alcoholics movement spread. See how many you can identify with. Frequently, adult children of alcoholics either become alcoholic or marry one.
Addictive/compulsive behavior or marry addicts
Delusional thinking and denial about family of origin
Unmercifully judgmental of self or others
Lack good boundaries
Tolerate inappropriate behavior
Constantly seek approval
Have difficulty with intimate relationships
Incur guilt when standing up for self
Lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth
Reactive rather than creative
Extremely loyal to a fault
Overreact to changes over which they have no control
Feel different from other people
Anxious and hyper vigilant
Low self-worth and internalized shame
Confuse love and pity
Overly rigid and serious, or just the opposite
Have difficulty finishing projects
Overly dependent and terrified of abandonment
Live life as a victim or offender
Intimidated by anger and personal criticism, or overly independent
Control madness-have an excessive need to control
Super-responsible or super-irresponsible
Kim Halsey is a woman with more questions than answers. She is not a brand, a label, easily understood or readily ignored.
As a realistic optimist, Kim believes that we are bigger than whatever life can throw at us and better equipped than we know.
Her heart's desire is to create a safe place, be a safe person, and leave a path for others to follow.
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