Today is the first day of the rest of your life.
How many of us have given up on making New Year's Resolutions? Is it because they don't work, or because we don't?
Research has shown that the people who make written goals are far more likely to achieve them than those who don't. Yet we resist. Why is that? Why are we so resistant to writing down what we want to be, do or have?
Perhaps it's because we have failed to reach our supposed goals so many times in the past. We lost momentum, or motivation, or lack support to keep our focus. Then we feel embarrassed and start listening to the IBSC (itty-bitty-shitty-committee) in our heads. You know - the one that beats us up for every wrong-doing in our life - real or imagined.
My challenge for you today is to make a list. A long one. Make a list of everything you EVER thought you wanted to be, do or have. Don't censor. Don't hesitate. Don't talk yourself out of it. Just write it down, and we'll talk about it again here.
If you're like me, there are some things on your list that just aren't realistic anymore. When I was 9, I wanted to be an airline stewardess. At 57, that's not realistic. But I wrote it because I wanted it once. What I found was that I love to fly and travel.
By noticing my desire, the dream was fulfilled in a different way. Now I'm in the air a lot, but I'm not the one navigating those narrow aisles on somebody else's schedule. My 2013 list acknowledges the fact that I want to fly first class more often.
How about you? Share your comments below.
Kim Halsey is a human resource professional and executive coach who helps people overcome life damaging habits, restore important relationships, and live their dreams without drama.