It takes more energy to suppress an emotion than it does to feel it. Stored emotions keep us stuck.
Number 13 in our series of 25 tips is: talk it out. We break shame by breaking silence. We may have written about things that have been buried for a very long time. But keeping it to ourselves means it keeps bouncing around in our brain.
I’m always surprised at how hard it is to just tell the truth about myself. To God, to myself, and to another human being. Without tweaking it so I look good.
We need a witness to our journey, to our triumphs and our failure. That’s where a trusted friend becomes so critical.
One guideline for selecting a safe person is to pick someone who will understand your story, but will be unaffected by what you have to say. Often times that’s why people use 12-step sponsors or paid counselors rather than family members of their safe person.
Who do you trust?
Kim Halsey is a human resource professional and executive coach who helps people overcome life damaging habits, restore important relationships, and live their dreams without drama.