We are all born into this life for a reason. We carry within us a unique, divine purpose. Then we are shaped by our culture, heritage, and socialization - that becomes our inherited purpose.
Over the course of a lifetime, the transformation seems to be in remembering the brilliance we were born with. And finding ways to express our passion without undue concern for what other people might think or say about it.
I wasn't quite the image of "sugar and spice and everything nice" that my mother bargained for when she wanted a fifth child at age 38.
I told the truth in a family of secret keepers. I was ambitious and intelligent in a patriarchal household. I refused to be a bigot in spite of my "Archie Bunker" heritage. I lived large. Big mouth, big body, big dreams. It made my mother crazy.
I tried to fit in. The only way i could 'be still, be quiet, and don't make waves' was to stuff my feelings with food. And I paid a price for that.
The stories I was told, the lies I believed, the distorted life I led were not about me. It was about faulty programming. I have traded my Masters Degree in Dysfunction for one in Organizational Leadership that serves me and hundreds of other women who I have the privilege of meeting each year.
We don't just turn the page. We close the book and become the hero of our own live-action story. It is my privilege to be here for you to rewrite your story when you are ready.
Kim Halsey is a human resource professional and executive coach who helps people overcome life damaging habits, restore important relationships, and live their dreams without drama.