We all carry memories of things done to us or someone we love. Things that were mean, or unfair, or hurtful, or damaging in some way.
When we carry that memory along with a demand for justice, we carry the pain with us. Every time we bring it up, we re-feel the trauma. Every time we talk about it, we justify our anger and cement the emotion in our body.
What we complain about, controls us.
We have all heard the adage, "forgive and forget" but I suggest you take that a step further. Remember, and forgive anyway.
Forgiveness doesn't erase the damage done, nor let the perpetrator off the hook. It does, however, allow you to see the damages for what they are (as well as the interest accrued in your body from years of stewing about it.)
Then you can get busy with repairs, and fly free into the rest of your amazing life!
So how do we do that? In stages. Writing about it would look like this:
Kim Halsey is a human resource professional and executive coach who helps people overcome life damaging habits, restore important relationships, and live their dreams without drama.