Someone said once that there are only 4 basic human emotions: mad, sad, glad, and afraid. All else is nuance.
People who are afraid usually take one of two paths. They either act out in rage, blame, and shaming others or they act in with depression, anxiety, and phobias.
All because we were never taught how to authentically feel and navigate emotion. If anger wasn’t an acceptable emotion when you were growing up, then you would naturally do whatever it takes to bury it so you could "fit in."
The problem with that is that buried feeings get buried alive. And they stay there right where you left them until something or someone else triggers a similar response. Then the buried feeling breaks out in some unexpected passive-aggressive sarcasm or cutting behavior.
A few symptoms of hidden anger are:
It’s important to face and feel any hidden anger before it comes out sideways and hurts somebody.
Kim Halsey is a Human Resource professional, author, speaker, and Executive Coach certified in multiple disciplines to help people overcome life damaging habits and restore family relationships.