One practice I have mastered over my years in recovery is "thought-stopping." Here are the steps as I walked them through my morning:
1. Triggering event (caught a glimpse of my naked self stepping into the shower)
2. Recognized my first negative thought of the day (had to do with age and gravity)
3. Did a quick validity test: Is it kind? Is it true? Is it helpful? (no, no, and hell no)
4. Remembered a quote from AA "the main problem of the alcoholic centers in his mind rather than in his body."
5. Focused my attention on my true life purpose (to be of maximum service to God and the people around me.)
6. Gratefully received 25 positive thoughts (and future blog topics) before breakfast.
That carried me all day until I was standing in line at the airport behind a woman who has what I want (youth, beauty, size next-to-nothing, and a terrific sense of fashion.)
Caught myself comparing and critiquing everything from her perfect pedicure to her dyed roots. (God, I hate admitting I still do that sometimes.)
So what was my solution?
Steps 1-5 above. It works every time!
Kim Halsey is a human resource professional and executive coach who helps people overcome life damaging habits, restore important relationships, and live their dreams without drama.