I would like to introduce you to my "Committee" - the internal dialog that handles daily operations for Kim, Inc.
Some people call it Monkey Mind - that thing that makes meditation so damn hard.
The Committee runs in the background most of the time, autonomously and without challenge. Research suggests that the human brain has roughly 70,000 thoughts per day. If you are anxious or depressed, it's more than that.
80% of those thoughts are negative. Whoa. Guess that answers the question I was going to ask you today. Do you think life is a problem to be solved or an adventure to be experienced?
Every once in awhile, my "Committee" breaks into my consciousness with a particularly harsh observation or self-criticism that is designed to keep me small. Insignificant. Self-absorbed. Ineffective.
It's all about control, you see. And the Committee knows my vulnerabilities better than anyone.
Today I erased 27 books from my Kindle. Everything that remotely suggested I'm not good enough unless I do it the author's way.
Self-help is a lie. The only reason we try to do it alone is because we're carrying shame. We beat ourselves up with perfectionistic demands that neither attainable nor sustainable.
I know from experience that the way to break shame is by breaking silence. Please join me in compiling an exhausive list of Committee complaints so those who follow may not be so burdened.
"You're not ____________ enough."
Nothing is ever enough when you're empty inside.
Kim Halsey is a human resource professional and executive coach who helps people overcome life damaging habits, restore important relationships, and live their dreams without drama.