First, you have to know what you mean and then communicate it in a way that the other person can hear.
For example, if you say, “I don’t like to be treated badly. If you swear at me, I will walk away,” then make sure you’re ready, willing, and able to do exactly that if the situation arises.
Otherwise, you are simply teaching others that you issue empty threats, and not to take you seriously.
Over time, that could fuel a relapse on one or both of you.
Kim Halsey is a human resource professional and executive coach who helps people overcome life damaging habits, restore important relationships, and live their dreams without drama.