Everyone was born with built-in quieting reflexes. But not everyone was comforted or given the skills to self-soothe. We had to learn those from our primary caregivers.
Small children self soothe by sucking their thumb, or rocking, or having a favorite blanket. In a painful place, they cry themselves to sleep. Addiction is the adult version of throwing a tantrum and crying ourselves to sleep. We self-medicate instead of suck our thumb.
Here are a few things we might have experienced and learned:
Children learn what they live. You are no exception. Many of these things work today as adults. How often, though, do we deny ourselves the genuine comfort of a walk, a bath, a nap. Instead, are you someone who reaches for a 'pick-me-up' so you can keep going?
Today's Journal Suggestion:
When you feel unusually mad, sad, glad, or afraid, what do you do to calm yourself down?
What did your parents do for you to help?
What did you see your parents do for themselves when strong emotions came?
Kim Halsey is a woman with more questions than answers. She is not a brand, a label, easily understood or readily ignored.
As a realistic optimist, Kim believes that we are bigger than whatever life can throw at us and better equipped than we know.
Her heart's desire is to create a safe place, be a safe person, and leave a path for others to follow.
Are you ready to stop dieting and start living?
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