The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it. - Tony Robbins
Your story is biologically rooted in humanity. It is the one thing we all have in common no matter where we were born, how we were raised, who we married, what our religious background, or what life handed us. We are quite naturally born into physical body and we all develop a story around why we are the way we are.
Human beings are hard-wired to seek pleasure and avoid pain. It’s our default programming. It came with the body. Beyond survival, our drive for pleasure brings us all the good things in life: love, family, achievement, rewards. The instincts for pleasure, love and acquisition are high on the list of what makes living so good.
It is also natural for us to seek an escape when life hands us unexpected losses or ongoing, unremitting pain. That escape begins with shock – a physical or psychic numbness designed to keep us stable until the danger passes or we can get help and heal. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross has identified five predictable stages humans must pass through to fully recover life’s pleasure again.
What happens with an addict, though, is that somewhere along the line the process stalls. There are plenty of theories out there about how or why that happens. When people work with me, we explore only those areas that prevent recovery, and we dig only as deep as we need to free you up to get back to fully embracing the joys of life.
Recovery at this level is for people who truly want it, not for people who need it. If you incorporate these 25 Ways to Win at Addiction Recovery into your life, you will love the life you are given.
Kim Halsey is a human resource professional and executive coach who helps people overcome life damaging habits, restore important relationships, and live their dreams without drama.