Most of my clients wrestle with a common question:
Do I really want to quit for good?
When someone is arrested for DUI do they really want to quit drinking, or do they go to meetings to appease the court and avoid a sentence?
Does a compulsive shopper really want to pay off debt, or just enough to go shopping again?
Ask any chronic dieter and the answer is the same: " I want to eat whatever I want and not gain weight." Don't we all.
There are two components to any successful recovery: the body game and the brain game. The first and easiest thing to do is put down the drink/drug/bite/bet. The more challenging piece is leaving it alone when life throws you a curve.
Most bad habits have a mind-numbing quality about them. Something that takes you out of an uncomfortable feeling or memory and makes you feel better - even if only for a short time.
The goal of recovery is to put down your drug of choice long enough to master the brain game you play. If you're having trouble doing that on your own, call me at 509-593-4989 and let's see if I can help.
Kim Halsey is a Human Resource professional, author, speaker, and Executive Coach certified in multiple disciplines to help people overcome life damaging habits and restore family relationships.