An old axiom of AA is that you’re only as sick as your secrets.
Sometimes those secrets have been carried for generations, way before you got here. To air the family’s dirty laundry is akin to treason and could definitely get you booted out of the clan.
The inner workings of a dysfunctional family can be stilled into three small phrases.
Don’t talk, don’t trust, don’t feel.
“Don’t talk about what happens in this house, it’s none of anybody’s business.”
“Don’t trust anybody outside this family, nobody knows you like we do.”
“Don’t feel anything except what we allow you to feel.”
If there is an alcoholic in the home, they are the only ones allowed to express ALL of the emotions. Everyone else gets to walk on eggshells. Your recovery demands that you break these rules and establish new ones to live by.
What are the unwritten rules you grew up with?
Kim Halsey is a woman with more questions than answers. She is not a brand, a label, easily understood or readily ignored.
As a realistic optimist, Kim believes that we are bigger than whatever life can throw at us and better equipped than we know.
Her heart's desire is to create a safe place, be a safe person, and leave a path for others to follow.
Are you ready to stop dieting and start living?
Like Us, Link Us, Share Us