"The unexamined life is not worth living." --Socrates
I have several clients working on their dreaded "shoulds" list this week.
That's a list of all the rules they live by. Rules they grew up with like, "Big boys don't cry" or rules they picked up along the way like, "Boys don't like girls who are smarter than they are."
Let's say you have that programming, and find yourself in a position in life when it's appropriate to cry, or to be smarter than a male. That creates mental conflict between how we think we should act and who we truly are or want to become.
These rules run in the background and suck energy without our conscious awareness.
Writing it down reveals the automatic programming we react to without even thinking.
Without knowledge, without consent, these automatic thoughts can - and often do - run our lives right off into a ditch. It is that cognitive dissonance that we try to silence with compulsive habits like drinking, overeating, gambling, etc.
Isn't it time to examine those thoughts? The linked photo will take you to a book written by me that you can move through at your own pace. If you need more support, contact me for individual coaching and let's see if I can help.
Kim Halsey is a human resource professional and executive coach who helps people overcome life damaging habits, restore important relationships, and live their dreams without drama.