Whose secrets are you keeping?
Whose life are you living?
Who's paying the price?
In addiction treatment, the "elephant in the living room" refers to a situation in which the addictive use of alcohol (or other drug) by a family member significantly impacts the remainder of the family. Yet no one talks about it. They treat it like a secret and tiptoe around the messes this person makes. Worse, they pretend not to notice, or that it doesn't matter.
It does. It mattered then and it matters now. Those raised with an alcoholic are likely to develop an addiction of their own, or to marry someone who does. And the cycle repeats.
Questions for your journal (and for sharing if you choose):
1. How has "not noticing" bad behavior by others helped you get ahead in life?
2. What has it cost you?
3. What would happen if it was suddenly okay to notice and talk about what you see wrong in your family?
Remember, you are not alone. There is a silent army of elephant keepers lurking here.
Kim Halsey is a woman with more questions than answers. She is not a brand, a label, easily understood or readily ignored.
As a realistic optimist, Kim believes that we are bigger than whatever life can throw at us and better equipped than we know.
Her heart's desire is to create a safe place, be a safe person, and leave a path for others to follow.
Are you ready to stop dieting and start living?
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