Five Secrets to Overcoming ANY Addiction
1. ADMIT THERE IS A PROBLEM
There is a good reason why some people think coming out of denial is the hardest step...because it IS! The people I work with are highly functioning men and women who are accomplished at what they do. They are born problem-solvers, so it's unthinkable to them that there might be a habit in their life they just can't get a handle on. By the time they come to me, they've tried to quit on their own. Sometimes more than once. Sometimes they've joined groups or sought counseling to deal with their issues, only to find that they knew more than the 'helpers' did.
2. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
This is not the same as finding someone to blame! The first thing an addict does when forced to admit there is a problem is to find an excuse or a scapegoat. After all - the image we hold of an addict or alcoholic is often a dejected, defunct, non-functioning individual. The people I work with are far from that! Many of them still have their homes, their jobs, their families. They're not stupid. They're in the grips of a physical, emotional and spiritual dilemma that is beginning to cost more than they're willing to pay in some way - health, wealth, or love.
3. ASK FOR HELP
In a broad sense, a problem exists when someone becomes aware of a significant difference between what actually is and what is actually desired. High achievers know they cannot succeed alone. It's all about networking, cooperating, and strategizing. The biggest problem in seeking help with addiction is the stigma attached to it. This one area can undermine all of the success an addict has built in life if it isn't handled correctly.
4. MAKE A PLAN
The wisdom of the ages tells us that people need a plan. "Without a vision, the people perish" (Proverbs 29:18). If we fail to plan, we plan to fail. My successful clients make plans all the time - and follow through with them: who they marry, what they purchase, when they work, where they travel. In fact, they frequently have all of their appetites under control except this ONE vice. So, it's not that they don't know how to set and reach goals. It's that the 'will' is amazingly weakened when confronted with their 'drug of choice'. They need a proven plan followed by others that they know will work.
5. FIND A SAFE PERSON
There needs to be ONE person in this world that you can be completely honest with. Someone who will understand what you are trying to accomplish in recovery, but be unaffected by what you have to say. That isn't a relative. Or a business associate. And it is not usually your pastor or priest because then you might feel overexposed and stop attending church. It might be a helping professional, but the fact is 9 out of 10 people who could benefit from counseling will never seek it. Why? Because they feel ashamed to have the problem in the first place, and are afraid of anyone else finding out.
Bonus: The 5 Things an addict will never tell
DOUBLE BONUS: LIVE IN THE SOLUTION!
If you have admitted there is a problem, and taken ownership of that problem, then you know it is your responsibility to find the solution. The answers are there - you just need help knowing where to look. If you're having trouble implementing this on your own, let's see if I can help. Call or text 509-593-4989.